Why Every Strong Willed Child is a Gift from God

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On your worst days with your strong willed child remember this:

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God made your strong willed child and HE gave them this will for a reason!  HE will use it for HIS glory if we can train and nurture this child up.


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This child has not been born just to drive you insane; although I know many times it feels like it!  He/She has been born to teach you, to refine you, and to be used by God.  Some of the most strong willed children have grown up to be pastors, presidents, and incredible leaders.

Strong willed children do usually struggle with character issues such as disobedience, stubbornness, and lack of self-control. However they also have some extraordinary gifts:  they don’t give up, they are usually bold in their testimony, they often are hard workers and very smart.

We have to work extra hard to win a strong willed child’s heart, we also have to spend extra time in the character building and teaching self-control.  We need to find things the child loves to do and nurture his/or her talents.

I’m not going to lie, there is no easy way with a strong willed child, but nothing great is ever easy.

P1020683Many times you will feel like giving up!  You will feel like you’re not getting through and this can be very discouraging.  But remember God will make up for your weakness.  Pray over this child, speak God’s promises into their life, and know it will take extra time to discipline and love them but they are worth it!

My favorite resources to parent a strong willed child are:  These books have helped me more than any books other than God’s Word of course (the greatest parenting book of all time)

Parenting is Heart Work – Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller

The New Strong-Willed Child – Dr. James Dobson

The Power of a Praying Parent – Stormie Omartian

Good and Angry – Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller

Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes… in You and Your Kids – Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller

Parenting strong willed children can be tough! God made them that way for a reason and HE will use them.


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  1. says

    Sounds really interesting. I think we may have one or two or four! Yet, it’s hard to tell until they are out of their twos and threes, I think. This looks like a great series! I’ll be checking back in!

    • Angela says

      Thanks so much for the visit! I hear you! Those two and threes can be difficult with any child! Hope you stop back!


  2. says

    THank you for this post! I really agree that my children’s strong will is a gift and I say it all the time. It takes a strong will (in a lot of ways) to really live the set apart life we are called to live. The same strong will that gives me fits sometimes right now is the one that will help my children stand up for what is right, resist peer pressure, and live a greater life than settling for what this world has to offer. We need to guide their character and teach them God’s ways, and obedience, etc. But I have no desire to break their wills (which I have seen advocated again and again by some Christians)

  3. says

    I was just listening to an audio of Cynthia Tobias talking about strong willed children today. I look forward to more of this series as I have one coming my way. 😉 I’d love to have you link this up to Titus 2 Tuesday on Cornerstone Confessions tomorrow.

    Clicking over from The Better Mom.


  4. says

    I am looking forward to this series! I have at least 2 strong willed children (of six.) Right now they are ages 4 and 1 1/2. I am re-reading Dobson’s Dare to Discipline right now and I find it incredibly helpful. They are little gifts, but you are right, sometimes it is easy to think they were put on this earth simply to make my own life harder!

    I completely agree- many children who are built this way grow up to be great leaders and strong witnesses! I see so much drive and passion in my little one… I constantly pray that God would direct that passion!!!

    new follower- so nice to meet you!
    Emily ‘

  5. says

    Hi Angela,
    I’m your neighbor from Jen’s Soli Deo Sisterhood today and I needed this. Thanks! I had a rough morning with my strong-willed little boy and you just pumped me up for the afternoon.

    • Z welch says

      Hi i am a grandmother my chance has pasted me by. I had one of the strongest willed ever. I could tell you stories that could make you laugh and cry. You have and opprtunity to make the difference,grab on to it and hold on. I raised 4 children 3 of the most disrespectful ones on this earth. I have been shoucked into.reality tpo late. I pray a silent prayer it doesent happen to you

  6. Stephannie Fletcher says

    Thank you for sharing, I prayed for a leader when I was pregnant with my oldest son. And does the Lord answer this prayer. I have been frustrated to the point of just crying. But always turn to the Lord for my strength. I will try during the hard moments to remember all the great advice given…


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