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On your worst days with your strong willed child remember this:
God made your strong willed child and HE gave them this will for a reason! HE will use it for HIS glory if we can train and nurture this child up.
This child has not been born just to drive you insane; although I know many times it feels like it! He/She has been born to teach you, to refine you, and to be used by God. Some of the most strong willed children have grown up to be pastors, presidents, and incredible leaders.
Strong willed children do usually struggle with character issues such as disobedience, stubbornness, and lack of self-control. However they also have some extraordinary gifts: they don’t give up, they are usually bold in their testimony, they often are hard workers and very smart.
We have to work extra hard to win a strong willed child’s heart, we also have to spend extra time in the character building and teaching self-control. We need to find things the child loves to do and nurture his/or her talents.
I’m not going to lie, there is no easy way with a strong willed child, but nothing great is ever easy.
Many times you will feel like giving up! You will feel like you’re not getting through and this can be very discouraging. But remember God will make up for your weakness. Pray over this child, speak God’s promises into their life, and know it will take extra time to discipline and love them but they are worth it!
My favorite resources to parent a strong willed child are: These books have helped me more than any books other than God’s Word of course (the greatest parenting book of all time)
Parenting is Heart Work – Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller
The New Strong-Willed Child – Dr. James Dobson
The Power of a Praying Parent – Stormie Omartian
Good and Angry – Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller
Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes… in You and Your Kids – Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller
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